Blame Not The Child is the story and experience of a boy that grew up during the Nigeria/Biafra Civil War in Africa, and the effect of the war on the psyche of the post- war children. This book is a satire on the dangers of human error and judgment, and the ugly consequences on the social contract between people. It is a voice that calls the attention of leaders across the globe to consider the consequences of their collective actions on the future of their children.

Have you given serious thought to your decision to become a parent,step-parent, foster or adoptive parent,even a teacher or any caretaker of a child? Have you considered what an awesome responsibility and privilege it is to guide the development and outcome of another human being? Are you already a parent who has questions or regrets about mistakes made during your parenting journey? Are you willing to begin to understand and accept the childhood experiences that are affecting your adult functioning and parenting style? Are you ready to move beyond the BLAME and SHAME of childhood trauma associated with neglect, abuse, loss and separation that affects your adult functioning? Will you consider using the tools of self-empowerment laid out in this book?

In recent years child protection issues have dominated media and public discourse in the UK. This book offers a unique perspective by giving voice to those social workers working within a profession which has become increasingly embedded in a culture of blame. Exploring how statutory child protection agencies function, Leigh also reveals how ‘organisational culture’ can significantly affect the way in which social work is practised. Providing a comparative analysis between the UK and Belgium, Leigh uses ethnography to illuminate the differences between the settings by examining how interactions and affected atmospheres impact on their identities. This book reveals how practitioners perceive themselves differently in such environments and explores the impact this has on their identity as well as the work they carry out with children and families. Leigh’s enquiry and compelling critique into social work, identity and organisations calls for mutual understanding and respect, rather than a culture of blame.

This is an account of the author's work with addicted clients and their codependent families in recovery from addiction, as well as an exploration of the excessive shame, guilt, fault, blame, and excuses that go along with it. What worked for them can surely apply to us all, even if our stories might not be quite as extreme. ?Tell me a story? is not just for children to say. Read these stories for yourself, and appreciate the wisdom and guidance that can come from practical application of truth that fits everyone's story. ?In the beginning was the Word, ? was said by the Apostle John, as the opening statement in his record of the Christ. ?In the beginning was the Story? would not be a bad translation either.

The world is constantly changing and we never know how tomorrow will be different from today. There are many things we can prepare for in life and some we can't. It’s the ones we can’t that make us understand how fragile we are as humans. Who would have thought, in our time of technology superiority and medical wonderment, we would shut down our world to deal with a virus from COVID-19? Why did we shut down our world? What were we afraid of? Getting a little sick? Getting a lot sick? Dying? AHA! DYING! IS IT DYING? ARE WE AFRAID OF DYING? SERIOUSLY? If our lives are so valuable to us, then why do we allow ourselves to be killed so easily? We can live one of two ways: We can lock ourselves in or let ourselves out. We may be able to protect ourselves more from dying if we lock ourselves in but if we let ourselves out, welcome to your world! In case you don’t recognize it, yours is the world where crime runs rampant, murder is an everyday thing, and there’s a pretty good chance you, a loved one, or a friend of yours is going to be hurt by another human being (who is someone’s child) and you will live with the pain of having been hurt by them for the rest of your life . . . and the persons responsible for your pain will never get punished! We need to stop our future from ending by going down the path it is. We need to stop building ourselves wrong! This book can help us start stopping! There are nearly 7.5 billion people on earth. It is estimated there are over 4,000 religions and it is believed people speak about 6,500 languages. Yet there is no religion anywhere in the civilized world saying a person cannot kill us or our children. There is no government saying the right person will be held responsible for stealing from us or our family. There is no law of any land saying that a person is not allowed to make a mockery of, tease, bother, insult, lie about, embarrass, or in any way destroy another human being! Each of us has the right – unrestricted – to do anything evil, hateful, harmful, and without justification to any other person on our planet without recourse! How is that? Because parents do something wrong if their children do something wrong! And that means if their children EVER do something wrong: ANY time, ANY place!! 1+1 should not equal 3 . . . unless the 3 is a good 3! Blame and Punish helps us understand what, and why, we need to begin believing . . . and fixing! For 300,000 years we've been doing this wrong! It's time to make sure we can live our lives without them ending prematurely so let's Blame and Punish right!

This book challenges a basic assumption held by many responsibility theorists: that agents must be morally responsible in the retrospective sense for anything in virtue of which they deserve praise or blame (the primacy assumption). Anton sets out to defeat this assumption by showing that accepting it as well as the much more intuitive causality assumption renders us incapable of making sense of cases whereby agents seem to deserve praise and blame. She argues that retrospective moral responsibility is a species of causal responsibility (the causality assumption). Then, she illustrates several examples in which agents are not causally responsible for any morally relevant consequences, but they seem to be deserving of praise or blame nonetheless. Anton concludes that such cases are counterexamples to the primacy assumption, and turns her attention towards discerning what grounds desert of praise and blame if not retrospective moral responsibility. Anton advances the moral attitude account, whereby agents deserve praise and blame in virtue of moral attitudes they have in response to moral reasons. These moral attitudes must be sufficiently sincere, which means they reach a threshold that distinguishes such attitudes as eligible for praise and blame. Anton adds that whether one deserves praise or blame and to what degree is sensitive to the agent’s personal moral progress as well as the status quo of her society. This addition brings with it the welcome consequence that morality may be objective, but we are still justified in judging one another charitably based on personal and societal limitations.

With the passage of the 1996 welfare reform, not only welfare, but poverty and inequality have disappeared from the political discourse. The decline in the welfare rolls has been hailed as a success. This book challenges that assumption. It argues that while many single mothers left welfare, they have joined the working poor, and fail to make a decent living. The book examines the persistent demonization of poor single-mother families; the impact of the low-wage market on perpetuating poverty and inequality; and the role of the welfare bureaucracy in defining deserving and undeserving poor. It argues that the emphasis on family values - marriage promotion, sex education and abstinence - is misguided and diverts attention from the economic hardships low-income families face. The book proposes an alternative approach to reducing poverty and inequality that centers on a children's allowance as basic income support coupled with jobs and universal child care.

This invaluable contribution to working with families, whether as a family therapist, clinician or parent, offers insight into how problems for families and children arise and what can help. Don’t Blame the Parents explores the ubiquitous issue of blame and responsibility in families, especially of parents feeling blamed for causing or exacerbating problems. The book examines problems that we all encounter in family relationships, whether with children’s behaviour, marital anxiety, or not feeling like we are the effective parent that we intend to be. Blame can restrict our ability as therapists, clinicians and family members to explore family dynamics and responsibility for emerging problems in a constructive and progressive way. It can prevent exploration of family dynamics and of finding workable options for long-term positive change and better understanding the role of the family unit. The book draws on attachment and systemic perspectives on family therapy to support the view that parents generally intend to repeat or correct positive childhood experiences, while exploring why these intentions may become derailed. Seminal and contemporary research as well as clinical cases feature, all with an eye to fostering positive and responsible families. “Rudi Dallos offers us a thoughtful and helpful deconstruction of the crucial ethical and therapeutic differences between blame and responsibility in family life. Drawing on his integration of trauma theory and attachment theory with systemic theory and practice, he explores the vexed questions of causality, context and intergenerational influences in the understanding and alleviation of distress in close relationships.” Arlene Vetere, Professor of Family Therapy and Systemic Practice, VID Specialized University, Oslo, Norway

Misplaced Blame: Decades of Failing Schools, Their Children and Their Teachers examines the underlying causes of why schools fail. The book describes the challenges that teachers and their pupils encounter in an environment that is dictated by poverty and harsh, unfunded mandates. The volume illustrates that school failure reflects a lack of opportunities—nothing more. The book also discusses the changing role of teachers over the years and teacher-led efforts to improve their students’ circumstances.

The public education system in New York is in turmoil. Is this because of leadership in Albany, the No Child Left Behind Act, parents who fail in their effort to raise children properly, or is it just the fault of kids who show little to no respect for authority, peers, or themselves? Or should we accept the most popular place of blame? The teacher is the problem. The former world, where teachers were revered, looked up to by children and parents, and respected because of the crucial role they played, is all but a forgotten memory. Today, parents and school administrators often demonize teachers and are openly critical of the tenure system, which protects their positions seemingly forever. Riverton School District has lots of issues. There is rampant bullying and peer intimidation. Some kids are even afraid to come to school. The disrespect and outrageous behavior runs not only unchecked, but leadership in Albany wants to see even less discipline and consequences for the young perpetrators. Brendan Moss teaches eighth-grade math at Riverton. As a widower and devoted father of three, he does his best to assist young people, but the school superintendent wants to use the veteran math teacher as a test case to overturn the right to lifetime tenure. Dont Blame the Messenger addresses school policies, State Department of Education leadership, bullying, and why a teachers tenure should be maintained and viewed as something good for kids and the process of learning. The author works in the trenches, where truth and reality collide. Opinions on what is wrong with public education vary. Dont Blame the Messenger is written by a teacher who knows how it really is.