This bestselling book, now in a revised edition, radically challenges the prevailing medical definition of co-dependency as a permanent, progressive, and incurable addiction. Rather, the authors identify it as the result of developmental traumas that interfered with the infant-parent bonding relationship during the first year of life. Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Barry and Janae Weinhold correlate the developmental causes of co-dependency with relationship problems later in life, such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviors, people pleasing, and difficulty achieving success in the world. Then they focus on healing co-dependency, providing compelling case histories and practical activities to help readers heal early trauma and transform themselves and their primary relationships.

Describes the developmental causes of codependency and correlates them with problems later in life such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviours.

In the field of addiction research and counselling there has been an increasing investment in the theory of codependency - a theory that holds women partly responsible for perpetuating the alcoholism and addiction of their male partners. This is the first anthology of feminist essays that presents a cogent critique of this theory. The unifying feature of the eighteen essays collected here is the revelation that solid evidence contradicts, rather than supports, the theory of codependency. Its assumptions are found to be unsubstantiated in theory and practice. The contributors to the volume explore the history of codependency theory and look at reasons for its growing popularity in medical-model politics. A central theme emerges: that codependency theory is essentially misogynist in nature - the result of a male backlash against feminism. The collection leaves no doubt that this backlash is effective. These essays reveal the many ways that codependency therapy promotes advice and counselling that is damaging and ultimately fails women seeking help for their distress. This anthology, aimed at professionals as well as readers at large reveals a remarkable body of literature questioning the validity of popular addictions philosophy about women and the quality of the scholarship that supports those theories.

At last: a concise and stimulating book with all the essential features and more about the nearly universal condition of co-dependence. Bestselling author Dr. Charles Whitfield discusses in detail how co-dependence is a major manifestation of being an adult child of a dysfunctional family, and provides specific psychotherapeutic and recovery methods to help heal its wounds.

Counter dependency: the flight from intimacy shows you how to recognize and deal with these people. If you recognize yourself in the list above, this book will show you how to change. It also recommends that you use your committed relationships to heal your wounds from childhood. The book shows you how to use conflicts as opportunities for creating intimate, partnership relationships.