Realizing that you are polyamorous can be a wonderful insight. It may feel like a solution to a long term feeling that you never fit in with monogamous models. Or it could have been a ‘team decision’ that you have more than enough love to include others. Or perhaps it is something you’ve known from the moment you started to be interested in romance. This book is about finding other people who share your view of polyamory is and want to share it with you.After all, just because you identify as polyamorous doesn’t mean the poly world suddenly opens up and people are climbing over themselves saying “Me too, let’s be some combination of multiple loving humans together!”. Instead, the challenge of finding like minded people, connecting with people, communicating your interest and desires, and simply beginning dating are not only still present for polyamorous people, but for some of us, even more challenging than a monogamous path.

No one likes a know-it-all, but everyone loves a girl with brains and heart. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory is an intelligent and comprehensive guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of alternative love, offering relationship advice radically different from anything you'll find on the magazine rack. This practical guidebook will help women break free of the mold of traditional monogamy, without the constraints of jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity, and competition. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory incorporates interviews and real-world advice from women of all ages in nontraditional relationships, as well as exercises for building self-awareness, confidence in communication, and strategies for managing and eliminating jealousy. If you're curious about exploring group sex, opening up your current monogamous relationship, or ready to “come out” as polyamorous, this book covers it all! Whether you're a seasoned graduate, a timid freshman, or somewhere in between, you'll learn how to discover and craft unique relationships that are healthy, happy, sexy, and tailor-made for you. Because when it comes to your love life, being a know-it-all is actually a great thing to be.

This book is a comprehensive guide designed to help mental health professionals understand and meet the unique needs of individuals in ethical non-monogamous relationships. Drawing on a wealth of research, case studies, and expert insights, Dr. Stephanie Sigler offers invaluable guidance on fostering healthy communication, managing jealousy and insecurities, and addressing the emotional dynamics that arise in non-monogamous relationships. With a compassionate and inclusive approach, this book helps mental health practitioners develop a deep understanding of diverse relationship structures. This book covers topics such as polyamory, open relationships, and swinging, addressing the specific needs and concerns of clients engaged in these relationships. It also encourages discussions of self-care for practitioners, ethical considerations, and addressing stigma within the therapeutic process. Sigler provides clinicians with step-by-step strategies and interventions mental health practitioners can implement in their sessions. An invaluable resource for practitioners new to ethical non-monogamy, this book is equally essential for therapists looking to expand their knowledge and skills and can help practitioners provide meaningful support to clients in this often misunderstood and underrepresented community.

'Invaluable' RACHEL KRAMER BUSSEL 'Refreshingly honest, comprehensive and realistic' MEG-JOHN BARKER Embarking on a non-monogamous relationship can be a daunting experience, opening old wounds that cause anxiety, fear and confusion, something Lola Phoenix knows about all too well. In this all-you-need-to-know guide to exploring non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships, Lola draws upon their years of experience in giving advice and being non-monogamous to provide guidance for every stage of your journey, helping you to prioritise your mental health and well being along the way. Beginning with advice on starting out - such as finding your anchor, figuring out your personal reasons for pursuing non-monogamy, challenging your fears and practicing self-compassion - the book proceeds to cover the emotional aspects of non-monogamous relationships, including dealing with jealousy and judgement, managing anxiety and maintaining independence, as well as practical elements such as scheduling your time, negotiating boundaries and managing your expectations, all accompanied with activities for further exploration. Whether you are new to non-monogamy, or have been non-monogamous for years, this insightful and empowering book will provide you with the emotional tools you will need to live a happy non-monogamous life.

Your favorite long-term client tells you they want to open up their relationship. Are you ready to help them? This groundbreaking guide to consensual nonmonogamy offers a reading experience that feels like consulting with a trusted advisor. Martha Kauppi equips you with the skills to be a true ally to clients who want to explore polyamory. Learn from the expert who trains experts as she debunks myths and shares the exact tools she uses with her own clients. Flip to any chapter for an understanding of what is possible, where things break down and why, and how to help. You’ll learn how to conceptualize complicated relational dynamics in a way that leads to effective treatment, and how to identify and disrupt maladaptive relational patterns without perpetuating negative cultural bias. A must-read for anyone looking for a framework to simplify the complexities of polyamory.

Boxes and How We Fill Them addresses a wide variety of sexuality issues, from desire discrepancy to erectile dysfunction to polyamory. Written by a specialist in sex therapy and education, Boxes offers engaging exercises and techniques anyone can use to communicate better about sex and to overcome issues in the bedroom. While not a replacement for therapy, this book helps readers grapple with sexuality issues, engage in self-care, and find empowerment. Identify your own struggles related to sexuality and get the tools you need to move forward in your relationship.

This easy reading book contains no games, no long motivational paragraphs, or weird seduction tactics. It is raw, actionable content designed to turn a man into the best version of himself capable of dating the women he truly wants and desires. Every relationship craves something greater, happiness, confidence, peace and finally a zest in life. All these elements are possible when a man understands women and can date as a perfect gentleman that every woman dreams of. Here is a preview of what you'll learn... • Before we start: the 3 critical edicts • How self confidence translates into attraction • What to do when you feel desperate • How to represent yourself without underselling or overselling • What to look for vs. What to watch out for (in him) • Using boundaries to your advantage • When to “define” the relationship This comprehensive guide, often referred to as the introvert’s guide to online dating, delves into the unique challenges and opportunities that introverts face. Understand what it truly means to be an introvert and how your distinct qualities can become strengths in building meaningful relationships. This book will help you embrace your introverted nature, identify your strengths, and overcome self-doubt and negative thoughts.

This book provides a powerful tool for everyone seeking to look beyond their fears, fantasies, and stereotypes and step into the reality of polyamory relationships whether they are just taking their first steps on that journey or are experienced travelers. A combination of information, insight, and detailed questionnaire, it is designed to help people get a clear understanding of who they are, what they want, and what they need in order to maintain a fulfilling relationship of any kind - regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or life situation. Ultimately, that personal understanding will facilitate communication among partners (current or potential) so they can work as a team to develop the relationship structure that will work best for everyone.

This unique, timely book of original essays sets the stage for a new materialist feminist debate on the analysis, ethics and politics of love. The contributors raise questions about social power and domination, situating their research in a materialist feminist perspective that investigates love historically, in order to understand changing ideologies, representations and practices. The essays range from studies of particular representations and examples of love - feminist translation, mass media images and internet love blogs - to feminist theories of love and marriage, to ethical and political theories describing, critiquing or advocating the use of love in groups as a radical force. They break new ground in bringing together questions of gendered interests in love, temporal dimensions of loving practices and the politics of love in radical transformations of society.

A practical guide to making sexually open arrangements work outlines options for transforming monogamous relationships into effective polyamorous ones, in a reference that addresses such topics as boundary setting, child-raising, and conflict resolution. Original.