When our partner is a narcissist, only those who've actually experienced the madness will ever understand what we're going through. This is a straight-up, tell-all book about narcissism in relationships that focuses solely on the personal experience. A narrative that holds nothing back, Zari Ballard's story will educate, enlighten, and empower you to evaluate (and fully understand) the mind-boggling dysfunction in your own relationship. Compare her story to your own and watch what happens. As it has for thousands of abuse victims worldwide, it is going to resonate with you in ways that no other book about narcissism ever has.

Developing a codependency to a partner who has a narcissistic or psychopathic personality will cause nothing but turmoil in our lives. We stay in the relationship, thinking that we can "fix" this person and love them out of their bad behavior, but the truth is that narcissists - just like sociopaths and psychopaths - can never be fixed...not with love, therapy, or any magic pill Our codependency and suffering fulfills the narcissist's pathological relationship agenda and makes them feel alive.Do the behaviors of your partner continually cause you to feel suspicious or uncomfortable? Are you being subjected to silent treatments and other forms of maddening passive-aggressive punishments? Do you find yourself walking on eggshells trying to avoid a hurtful silent treatment or narcissistic confrontation? Does it appear that your partner creates chaos (even during good times) just to keep you feeling anxious and insecure? Are you making yourself crazy trying to figure it all out? Answer "yes" to one or all of the above and it's likely you're involved with someone who a narcissistic personality disorder.When Love Is a Lie is an informational anecdote that helps you to recognize the narcissistic abuse, understand your codependency to the chaos, and then get on the right path to mentally breaking free from the nonsense. Breaking free mentally is the key to breaking free altogether from someone with a narcissistic or psychopathic tendencies and Ms. Ballard provides a way to begin this process. She offers a logical perspective that comes complete with reasons for leaving that you simply can't argue against! It is a doable solution that will get you on the right path to becoming narcissist-free...Understand how and why a partner with a narcissistic or psychopathic personality.......will never be able to attain - or even pretend to have - the very special and love-worthy human qualities (the undeniable truths!) that are essential to life itself. Use these truths as a foolproof way to begin mentally breaking free from a narcissist!....will, over time, deliberately and methodically manage down our relationship expectations so that we expect less and less and he gets away with more....will use the Silent Treatment and similar demoralizing methods of control to punish those who dare to call them out on questionable behaviors....will create constant chaos and turmoil even - and especially - during the "good" times as a tactic of keeping you in a heightened state of co-dependent anxiety....will juggle many, many relationships at once - often for years on end - with no one being the wiser...not even you....lies even when the truth is a better storyWhen Love is a Lie provides confirmation and validation that, indeed, you are neither alone nor crazy. This little book may just have the magic answer....the perspective you've been looking for...the reality check you need to leave the abusive lover and find your way back to the sane world...

"When Evil Is a Pretty Face" is a unique compilation of the best content from all three of Zari Ballard's three popular books on narcissism in relationships but with the gender references reversed and with special chapters added that specifically speak to a man's experience with a female narcissistic partner. Is your wife or girlfriend a pathological liar, a cheater, and someone who is nothing like the person you fell in love with? Does she accuse you incessantly of cheating even though her own stories and excuses never seem to add up? Does she blame you for everything wrong with the relationship and take accountability for nothing? Are you subjected to silent treatments, sudden disappearances, and cold shoulders for no reason at all and will she use "the power of the pussy" to manipulate you into taking her back? Answer yes to any of the above and it's likely your woman has a narcissistic personality disorder and that chaos and confusion has become the norm in your life. It's also likely that you've been unable to find support since much of the information available about narcissism focuses on the male narcissist/female sufferer dynamic as if the reverse never happens. Moreover, this lack of support is exacerbated by the fact that we live in a society that doesn't provide a whole lot of sympathy for male victims of anything - and the female narcissist knows this all too well. "Lacking a moral compass, a narcissist will stay in multiple relationships, diligently working to keep partners unsure or unaware of the existence of the others, for as long as she can and even after her crime has been discovered. The fact that she causes pain to others is the fuel to her fire. Narcissists live their lives via the proxy of their partner's suffering and via the "rules and requirements" of the narcissist's relationship agenda." - When Evil Is a Pretty Face, 2015 This book will tell you what you need to know about what is happening to you. It will explain why the female narcissists does what she does, says what she says, and how her twisted mind thinks relative to her pathological agenda. The truth is that the female narcissist has her male counterparts beat hands down in the evil department and because she's a female, she is allowed to live her life in a way that is above reproach. But there is one thing that all narcissists have in common and that is that they can never be fixed - not with love, therapy, or with any magic pill. No Contact is the only way to escape the relationship alive and this book will show you the way.

02/10/21 NEW RELEASE from NAR Coach Zari Ballard, author of "When Love Is a Lie: Narcissistic Partners & The Pathological Relationship Agenda"... "When we love a toxic person such as a narcissist, we spend much of our time in the relationship rabbit hole and will become quite acclimated. Our eyes adjust to the darkness and our skin becomes just thick enough so that most bullshit rolls off. It is a hole that feels endless...and somewhere between its ominous opening and this infinite endlessness is where our toxic love resides." Zari Ballard (Vacancy in the Rabbit Hole) The bad behaviors of toxic people should never determine your self-worth. Narcissists play the Game of Life by a different set of rules than everyone else and they count on the fact that you haven't studied their playbook. This book will help you train your brain to turn the tables on all narcs and take charge of your life once and for all. Zari's long-awaited 5th book about narcissism in relationships provides a roadmap to recovery for those seeking to lessen the setback of emotional suffering. Vacancy in the Rabbit Hole analyzes the break-up and discusses the phases of suffering, trauma bonding, co-parenting, and the question of forgiveness. As always, Zari speaks from an experience that readers who have "been there, done that" will understand and appreciate. If you're seeking a way out of the madness, this book will take you on a journey that you don't want to miss. It's time to step beyond the borders of suffering with a partner narc and beat these vampires at their own game without even trying. Believe it or not, it's as simple as changing your perspective...

The narcissism handbook for suspecting partners Is your partner actually a narcissist or is he/she just a person behaving badly...and how can you tell? Learning to recognize the signs/behaviors of the narcissistic personality can prevent this type of emotional manipulation and abuse from ever happening to you at all OR the knowledge will give you the confidence to finally go "no contact" with the abuser you are involved with. Yet another amazingly intuitive book about narcissism in relationships from blogger/relationship consultant Zari Ballard (thenarcissisticpersonality.com), Narcissism in A Nutshell will quickly provide you with an answer to that all-too familiar nagging question: Is he or isn't he? Zari explains that this isn't rocket science...that the trick to determining whether a partner's behaviors are truly narcissistic is inremaining watchful of how these behaviors connect and relate to each other. These behaviors do not stand alone and if you make the mistake of thinking that they do, you will always lose. This narcissism handbook not only describes the thirteen most blatant characteristics of narcissism in a relationship, it also explains, very clearly, how all of the described behaviors seamlessly connect to form the pathological relationship agenda - an agenda by which the narcissist lives his/her life and by which you, if you choose to stay with this person, will live your life as well. In a nutshell, here is how a narcissist's mind-boggling behaviors connect from one to the other within this book: A narcissist's initial love-bombing (Chapter I) sets the stage for years of future-faking (Chapter III) much like the nefarious silent treatment (Chapter VI) succeeds due to the managing down of a partner's expectations (Chapter VIII) which will always involve the type of covert pathological lying (Chapter II) that, combined with cell phone games (Chapter V), the pain of triangulation (Chapter X), and projection tactics (Chapter XIII), will contribute to an overall confusion in the loving partner that allows a narcissist to get away with everything that he does. It's all about creating chaos (Chapter XII) and distraction(Chapter IX)! Seemingly separate at first, these passive-aggressive behaviors will always combine in such a way that there will be no doubt as to who this person really is. And those are just a FEW of the many ways that we can connect the dots within this book. It's easier than you think...all you have to do is know what you see. Don't ever be fooled by a narcissist again...Download this book today! Visit Zari's blog: thenarcissisticpersonality.com

This popular book is dedicated to freeing those stuck within toxic relationships.Compassionately grounded in science and embedded in the author's 30 years plus of clinical experience, this is nevertheless an easy and powerful read.